The creation of a new blended family is not easy. The high number (60%) of second divorces demonstrates this. Research has shown that this leads to even more stress for the children then at the first separation.
I can help you to draw up such a plan for a blended family (step-plan). The new family is scoped. Who are playing a part: the parents of the child plus the stepparent(s) of course, and (half) siblings, plus possible stepbrothers and -sisters and grandparents and step-grandparents.
In the plan you will address:
The other parent - the ex-partner - which has another family system that the child also attends regularly, belongs to the new family system. There will be still much communication with that other parent. How nice would it be for the children when this is done in harmony.
You can do it right at the start, when you enter into a new relationship. This is wise, because you ponder in advance about situations you might not yet conceive.
Of course you can also draw up the plan at the time problems have risen, to prevent recurrence or to prevent other problems in the future.
As a Certified Step Plan Coach I can help you with that.
Together with you as parents / stepparents we explore the features of the new family, the pitfalls and possibilities. Where necessary, we also look at the underlying questions that live within you.
In this way you are learning each other's thoughts and desires about the above issues (even) better, and also on other aspects that are important to you in your new family. The agreements you reach will be laid down in the Blended Family Plan.
I help you and you help each other to make a success of your new family.
Since 1999, I have committed my experience and knowledge to support people and businesses in conflict situations to work towards workable solutions for all parties involved. I am multi-certified as a mediator, trainer and coach, offering mediation and training services domestically as well as abroad and online where required. Call directly for free information: +31 6 54 787 464.